Incentives for Getting Affairs in Order

In the last week two very close friends got put on hospice care. My heart is broken at the impending loss of these wonderful women. One of my friends has been dear to me since high school, our college years on the same floor in our dorm and throughout the years, checking in on each other. My other friend has been my inspiration to good motherhood, sharing many years as neighbors down the street, our kids running in an out of each other's house, holidays shared, and off key singing in their kitchen. We spent so many great times together. I am honored to be called a friend to each of them. Those sweet memories are the rose garden of my mind today.

I also have been talking to three other friends who have been going through serious symptoms and exhausting tests. This aging proces is no picnic and as I have shared before. Mom never let me in on this dark secret of aging! Just as well, now I will also not let the cat out of the bag, especially to my grandkids who are having their own set of problems.

Another impetus for creating a will was the feeling of my own fragility. Just getting over a virus of some sort, I have been really short of breath, moving from one room to another or making a meal. Frustrating and calling on the tool of acceptance and gratitude that I still have a good head on my shoulders!

Hearing about the hospice process and the other two awarenesses were my driving force to get on the stick and tie up the "affairs in order" activity. It took around an hour. My very adult kids have been notified and now I can stress about something else. I got online to one of these lawyer online sites and filled out the forms necessary to have a document that they can use as their roadmap for "my wishes" In reality I won't know the difference anyway, but it is for them so in case there are conflicting ideas, they can refer to the will. The peace of mind I feel, after putting all their names on paper, their phone numbers and designated a couple of them to be responsible for decisions, that helps the worry of them stressing over some of the decisions they will have to make when I am not able. Taking care of yourself can be a big deal in itself these aging days, so those moments of being unable to do that, I am already thankful in advance for the job that is ahead of them and I want it there so I can do to relieve that burden.