The art of not saying anything is becoming more and more popular as a tool to the aging process. Whereas I used to think when someone told me some problem they were having they were looking for a solution and I was the nearest person available, so I should say something. I found that no, that isn't quite so. They may be just talking out loud so they can hear it themselves while they think of what to do next. Then there is the direct question, "What do you think I should do?"

Losses are not easy to experience. The grief attached to loss seems to come in waves, when we least expect it. When we age, we start experiencing loss of hearing, diminished sight, flexibility, memory losses, and friends who were dear to us. Any of those losses alone are hard to take, let alone 2 or 3 at a time! These losses are especially painful when we think, inside, we are 35 or 40! The normal road down aging lane is filled with finding others who too, are losing somet

Establish Goals Take Care of Your Health Socialize in Interesting Environments Avoid Triggers Find New Ways to Have Fun Seek Professional Help Set Boundaries Focus on the Positive Encourage Yourself Seek Support with Trusted Friends

Judging and criticism used to be a tool we used when raising kids. It doesn't work anymore. At All As a parent with my kids in the house, I probably gave 300 suggestions a day to the five of them. Today, with them approaching seniorhood themselves, they aren't a bit interested in directions from me but rather encouragement and appreciation. Got it. Early parenthood was filled with stress, organizing, feeding, wiping noses, cleaning, paying bills, driving, listening, filling o

Last night my O no, its is going to be awful brain took over and wouldn't let me sleep. It pictured tortuous scenarios of my future,...

So many people we talk to get stuck in the worry zone, or keep beating up on themselves for the past. The diversions you can practice can be of your own making. This morning I hopped on a virtual meeting, then walked the dog while playing some 70's music. Then I made breakfast and watched the morning show I love to watch and checked emails and set up my client charts for today. Have a load of diversion activities can stem the tide of those morose feelings we have built up and

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Yesterday I heard several stories from friends whose loved ones were going through difficult medical traumas. They had shoulder aches or...

Remembering sweet times and wonderful surprises on this day. Thinking of the people I love and sending them loving thoughts. So different...

How do we gather together in the name of supporting one another on this journey? When I took my first course in gerontology in the 1970's I saw seniors as people who played bingo in their wheelchairs in the nursing home where I worked. The vision of a hallway full of people lined up in wheelchairs was a regular view, and I became immune to the daily report of who had died during the previous day. My job as activity director was to bring in other humans who would update our re

The story of a 'wrinkled radical!" Margaret Eliza "Maggie" Kuhn (August 3, 1905 – April 22, 1995) [1] was an American activist known for founding the Gray Panthers movement, after she was forced to retire from her job at the then-mandatory retirement age of 65. The Gray Panthers became known for advocating nursing home reform and fighting ageism, claiming that "old people and women constitute America's biggest untapped and undervalued human energy source." She dedicated her

Caged Bird By Maya Angelou A free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the current ends and dips his wing...

Last night I had the strangest dream I sailed away to China In a little row boat to find ya And you said you had to get your laundry...

When I was young, my mother called a neighbor a busybody who didn't mind her own business and asked questions. I had a next-door neighbor...

Empathy We are not all going to have empathy for others all the time. In recent weeks friends have lost their homes, and in recent days,...

This is the name of a Netflix movie I watched today. It has a powerful message for us. One of the studies cited in this piece was that if...

Are you the type of person who puts others first and puts yourself on the back burner? What if you treated yourself like a favorite child...

The therapeutic benefits of stopping when anxious and taking a deep breath are amazing. I use the Calm app which is sometimes given to...

A lot of people I know disguise their depression as anger. They would rather be cranky and complaining than admit they are depressed....

This old poem by an anonymous author reminds us how we can let go of what we think should happen and let things ufold as they come. That...